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Prostate massage feels amazing - with skilled, confident prostate massage you are able to stimulate the entire male sexual system at once. Many men don't realize that their penis extends deep into the body - and prostate massage stimulates the penis at the root, creating incredible sensations that extend down the entire length of the penis.

Our prostate massage video guide demonstrates, stroke-by-stroke, how to offer a highly pleasurable prostate massage. But to take it to the next level, you can also learn how to give a good handjob - an essential skill that will heighten his pleasure and allow you to sustain his arousal, increase sensation and bring his climax to the next level.

So when men and their partners ask us how to make prostate massage sexy, hot and pleasurable, the answer is simple - combine skilled prostate touch with expert touch of the penis!  The result is a phenomenal sensation that all men can enjoy.

Arousal, Erection, Orgasm and Ejaculation are often considered to be a package deal for men: you can't have one without the other. To enjoy more sexual pleasure and erotic freedom, it is essential to dismantle this myth and understand these events to be complementary experiences that may come in any combination.

Arousal: An experience of sexual stimulation and pleasure, visual, tactile or otherwise. Can be brief or prolonged, sought out or spontaneous. The dictionary definition of "arouse" is "to evoke or awaken."  This definition reminds us that arousal awakens the erotic part of us that is always within us, a part of our very being. Stimulation from any number of sources can awaken this energy, bringing our attention more fully to our sexuality and desires.

Erection: A physical response, in which the penis is engorged with blood and becomes more rigid. Both men and women have erectile tissue in their genitals, and both men and women can experience erections. Erection pulls the skin of the genitals more taut around the shaft of the penis or clitoris, exposing more nerve endings and heightening sensation. Contrary to popular "blue balls" myth, erections can come and go painlessly - and "losing" an erection does not need to end a sexual encounter. Erections are also not an on/off switch - most men experience a range of erectile stages, each with their own pleasures. Our cultural obsession with erectile disorder has the uninvited effect of making many men ashamed of becoming less erect, even if they are highly aroused. This sometimes ends sexual encounters prematurely, shaming both partners and causing resentment. Embracing all stages of erection - including the aroused but not erect penis- can greatly extend sexual pleasure and take the pressure off men to be constantly hard when aroused.

Orgasm: A climax of sexual excitement, marked in men and women by involuntary contractions of the pelvic muscles and an intense sensation of pleasure. Both men and women can experience one or more orgasms in any given sexual event, with or without ejaculation. Most people experience a building of sexual excitement towards a threshold, and  a "point of inevitability" at which orgasm is imminent. Orgasms can range from mild to wild, quick to long lasting, serene to bestial.

Ejaculation: The release of sexual fluids from the urethra, usually (but not always) during sexual excitement. Ejaculate is a combination of several components - fluid from the prostate and other glands, and (in men only) sperm.  The contractions of the pelvic muscle help propel the ejaculate fluid out of the body.

There is a lot of fuss about ejaculation in the sex education world: men want to learn how to withhold ejaculation, and women want to learn how to ejaculate. Both goals are seen as markers of enlightenment or sophistication. It is our position that ejaculation is just one of the many pleasurable options for sexual climax, and is neither more nor less advanced that non-ejaculatory orgasms. Some traditions discourage frequent ejaculation, citing the emission of precious fluids as depleting to overall health and vitality. You are the best expert on your own  body - experiment and pay attention to how you feel. Does ejaculation make you feel tired, or energize you? Does getting aroused without having an orgasm keep you erotically charged all day, or create frustration?

Enjoy the process of discovering these four distinct and pleasurable processes in your body! Have any questions about arousal, erection, orgasm or ejaculation? Leave a comment or Contact Us and we'll do you best to answer your questions!

This morning we found this comment on our YouTube channel under the preview video for our Guide to Prostate Massage:

"can't you tear the anus wall with your nails going in and out like that? looks kinda dangerous in a way"

This kind of fear is precisely the reason we made these guides. Anal stimulation (for both men and women) never has to be painful or dangerous. It can be 100% pleasurable, 100% of the time.

Our response:

"If the butt is relaxed after lots of external touch (which is demonstrated in the guide) then the in and out strokes are not dangerous. Of course, nicely trimmed nails and plenty of lube will help keep everything smooth and pleasurable. The tissues of the anus and rectum are actually quite flexible - but can be damaged if the area is not completely relaxed. Prostate play NEVER should be painful, it can be 100% pleasurable!"

Many people avoid anal stimulation out of fear of pain or injury. Usually this is becuase they have either watched porn that depicts anal sex as a fast, hard and deep penetration with no warm-up or they have tried anal sex before and found it painful.

Without proper warm-up and relaxation, anal stimulation can be uncomfortable, painful or even dangerous. But with lots of relaxing warm-up and arousing external touch, internal stimulation can be highly pleasurable. It may even be the most pleasurable sex act for some people, especially when combined with stimulation of the genitals.

Our guides are designed to show you how to enjoy pleasurable, pain-free anal play. Let us know if you have any more questions about how to keep it fun, arousing and 100% pleasurable.